Please Advise . . .

[Danielle]

My friend wants to have his boyfriend to be there whenever she needs him from time to time but her boyfriend can't give her the time she wants because he is very busy with his nephew and niece which he stands as guardian to the children since the sister of her boyfriend is out of the country right now.

Even though the boyfriend assures my friend (his girlfriend) that he do love her, still my friend can't seem to understand the situation and she wants to break off with him but her boyfriend won't permit it.

I pity my friend because i do know she loves her boyfriend so much but she can't understand the situation her boyfriend is into. I also know that breaking up with him would hurt her so much.

Been trying to talk with her and also trying to explain the situation but it seems that she has close her doors of understanding.

Any other advise would be much appreciated.

[lynn]

:)

Your friend should do some soul searching. It sounds like her boyfriend has a great sense of responsibility, otherwise he would not have been made guardian to his niece and nephew.

She should consider herself fortunate to have found someone that has such great committment. Tell her to be patient. He sounds like someone that is surely worth waiting for. After all that situation won't last forever. They will have plenty of time to be together.

I hope this relationship works out for both of them.

Lynn

[hotbars]

Yeah, the girl sounds a bit selfish. She should give the dude a break.

[prcutie]

i feel your friend has a problem with co dependency,and that is a sad and difficult condition to deal with...try to make her more self confident,then she will become more self reliant and less "needy" of other's constant attention....i know... i used to be the same way.... p r cutie