Porn Problems

[PinutButrCooky]

So, my fiance views porn on a very regular basis and does not see a problem with it, even though it makes me very upset. At one point he said he'd try to not do it as much, but that consideration is long gone. He gets mad every time I bring it up. He told me that if I ask about it, he will lie to me about it from now on, and I need to stay out of his personal life. In my opinion, I should be his personal life. At one point I was almost okay with him viewing it, because he said it was just because he was bored and because he loves the female body and it wasn't sexual, but I recently found out that it is sexual and that he gets off to it. He says no guy ever jacks off to their own girlfriend, and that every guy jacks off to porn, even if they're with the most gorgeous girl ever, and so it's not about me at all. What should I think about this? I think I should be all he needs. He should at least be concerned about me being upset about it, right? Comments (men and women!)?

[Ladybug]

In my honest opinion, and this is only my opinion, this bloke sounds really immature and selfish.

You're right he should be showing you more consideration.

Kel xx

[lynn]

This sounds like a case for Dr. Phil. He usually has pretty helpful advice. :)

[cyrax12]

hello I am male and I have a girlfriend but yes i still look at porn it helps for that time of the month. I dont believe girlfriends should have a say if guys look at porn i mean its not there eyes. My girlfriend doesnt give a **** even she looks at porn sometimes. I think you should just grow up cause almost 100% of guys look at porn.

[azlo]

how old are you crayx12, i think you and your girlfriend are still very young...

[RoadKill]

Depends if he views it while you are there.
If he does, knowing how you feel then its a lack of consideration for your feelings but if its a private thing, then whats the problem. If he keeps coming back to you and he loves you, you might only end up pushing him away by questioning and probing.
If it gets to the stage where he prefers the net to you then you dont have a relationship anyways and its time to look elsewhere.
Its always a difficult one to deal with because men and women respond differently to visual stimuli with the male far easier to arouse in such circumstances.
Why do you think there are such a large variety of mags aimed at the male market and so few for women.
Not justifying nor am I condemning, just trying to show that these differences are there and as is human nature, by making something out of bounds, it merely increases the desire to have it.
I occasionally look at porn but it certainly doesnt send me in a lust fuelled frenzy intent on copulating with anyone but my partner. A lot of the times, the fantasy can benefit both partners.
For me, my girlfriend is the only one I am interested in and no matter what I see or come across, no matter how attractive and desirable it may seem, it has never altered the way I see or feel about her.
A picture is an image, a fantasy maybe but that is all it is.
You cannot curl up close to a picture, feel the warmth and smell its perfume.
I know what I want and no picture will change that.
Some people can accept that whereas a lot of others refuse point blank.
If someone tried to exercise control over me by not allowing any harmless activities while I was alone then that would tell me that it was time to move on because my individuality was being eroded. I am what I am not what someone wants me to be.
Its your decision though, make it carefully and I hope it comes good for you in the end.

[bleach]

Let him watch the porn if needs to watch it. Untill he doesn't prefer watching porn to having sex with you it's allright.